Assistant Middle School Principal
Pay Attention to Clues of Deception
The TV series Lie to Me features a psychologist who can recognize lying by observing the slightest change of expression or a subtle unconscious gesture. Most of us aren't that skilled, but you can learn to spot a lie by paying close attention.
Here's what to watch and listen for:
Words and gestures that don't match. Look at the timing of people's words and gestures (or expressions). Example: Joe says, "I'd love to help you with that," but frowns--or flashes a smile a moment or so afterward. Chances are he's really less than thrilled. Sincere, spontaneous gestures and expressions are simultaneous with statements.
Repetition. Liars are more likely to repeat your question or rephrase it when answering. You: "Did you take the last piece of cake?" Liar: "No, I didn't take the last piece of cake."
A thoughtful pause. Most people need time to think before they tell a lie. "I had
to . . . take my mother to the dentist," for example. Be sensitive to hesitations and pauses when they answer your questions.
Try changing the subject. When you suspect someone is lying, switch to a different topic. Liars will be relieved that you've moved on, and eager to engage the new topic. People telling the truth are more likely to be confused by the abrupt switch.
Don't jump to conclusions. All of these behaviors may have alternative explanations. If the matter is serious, investigate the facts before making any accusations.
This article was taken from the September issue of Cut & Paste Magazine.
